When it all started, God made the earth, animals, birds, and man. In Genesis 2:21 Moses writes; "But for Adam no suitable helper was found. The Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh (22) Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and h brought her to the man. (23) The man said, ""This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman for she was taken out of man" (24) For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will be one flesh."
I would like to point out a few things from this passage. First off, man and woman were made for each other, Not man for man, and not woman for woman. Now I do not want to start a debate on the subject, but that is how God started the world, moving on. I noticed when reading this that God made a point to take a rib from man to create woman. Why did God do things this way? I asked myself that, the same God that made the earth, the sky, the animals, the birds, why didn't he just make a woman, why did he take the rib of the man he had already created and create woman. I mean it's not like he did not know how to create a human, he had just done it. Well I think I understand why, As you can see it was the first marriage, of the first humans of the earth. Pretty big deal, they started the fad of marriage, Gods way. Not to say I do not like Gods way of marriage, but I liked my wedding cake much more than I would of liked getting a rib pulled from my body. God thinks so far ahead it's some times hard to keep up, moving on. We see that God intended for man and woman to be ONE, to be married to be one flesh. We have gotten away from that, We have moved onto many different things than what God started. We live with our girlfriends before we are married, we start families before a marriage has taken place, we do not ever get married for what ever reason, we are doing this differently that what he had planned and I think that is why we see a lo of divorces and relationships without marriage.
I chose a old testament verse to show how God intended everything to be, but as we known, God sent Jesus to save our sins, meaning the end of the old and start of the new. Turn with me please to the new testament, the book of Matthew, chapter 19.
(3)Pharisees came to him (Jesus) to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" (What they are asking him were the current laws, those laws are listed through Deuteronomy) (4)Haven't you read, "he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? They are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate"
I have be reading about marriage and praying about marriage, not because my wife and I have had problems, but because I feel, that what I have done in my life God has plans for. The sins that I have done, God is going to use for good. One of the things that God has laid on my heart for me to share is the love that I have for my wife. We have been married for 3 years 5 months and 6 days, and I love that I am married to her I would not change it for anything. I feel that I need to share that marriage is not a old testament thing, or law that we do not believe in anymore. Marriage is more than saying your vows in front of your family and having cake and going on a honeymoon, it is a commitment to the one you love that you will be with her, and love her, and care and provide for her. Without a commitment of marriage it is nothing more than some thing that works and is easy, living together and sleeping together and doing everything you would do like you were married, is not O.K. unless you are married. It is hard for anyone in this day, the way the world has turned away from God, to continue to live the way he wants us to. It is not easy to obey his laws and do what is good and right. It is so much easier to go through the motions of good and right, than to actually do them. I love that I am married, and yes at times it is hard, but 90% of the time it is not. I know many young couples just like Katie and I that are not married, that live together and act as if they were, but you can always see the difference. The Lord is involved in our life's, our marriage, when God is not involved, who do you think is? Who do you think is telling you that marriage is a old testament believe and that no one does that kind of thing anymore, and that it is O.K. to go and sleep our of wedlock with your girlfriend, not God, and trust me I have heard both voices, I have been where you are. I have been standing there thinking is this right and hearing two voices tell me different answers and I have felt that push to go in the wrong direction, but I need to tell you, that one of those voices is not on your side, one of those voices is trying to send you the wrong direction. I want you to take the time to listen to both sides and hear both sides. I can tell you how many times I have fought with my wife, I can count them, there are that few of times, and that is not because of us but it is because of the Lord. I ask you to think about marriage, think about the commitment, think about the one you love and if you love her enough to go through the motions, then go for the real thing, it is so much better. It's like having making a Toyota Prius look like it has a 400 big block, instead of really having one, it makes a world of difference. I want to show you that marriage is an awesome thing and if your having fights, or not getting along, or feel that some thing is not right, that God can take care of you, and he loves you, but you have to follow for him to show you the way.....
Pray about marriage, Pray about love, Pray for the right direction,
Eric
God asked a man one day, because you have been so faithful to me and devoted your life to me i will give you any wish you would like all i ask is that you think about your wish first...the man thought a little while then said alright, i know what i want...I want you to build a bridge from california to hawaii...see i'm afraid of flying and afraid to go on a boat and i really would like to see hawaii....God, spoke and said well i can do that, but think about the time it would take for man to build this bridge and the potential lives that would be lost for such a dangerous endevour....the man thought again and said alright, then i want to understand women. understand why they do the things they do, why they say the things they say, why they think the things they think....God spoke again and asked....you want a 2 lane or 4 lane bridge. lol, one thiung i think we need to remember Eric is that indeed God created us equal but he also created us different. one huge thing that helped me and my marriage is realizing heather my wife may not always see the glass half full as i do or look at life the same way...and thats good, that is how He created us. each one unique. so my point is i guess remember to be considerate and try looking at things through your spouses eyes. by the way Eric this is your cousin frank i can't for the life of me figure out what profile i need to pick??? lol
ReplyDeleteoh and by the way God chose a rib cuz it's the closest thing to your heart as your wife should be...brownie points...lol
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way frankie, I see now that you have made a profile, which is awesome. Well I am not a professor in womenolgie, but I am student, I know with God begin the professor in the class I have a pretty good chance of passing with a D-. As my wife sits next me while I write most of my comments and posts I find myself thinking, am I going to get into trouble for saying this, or is she going to understand what I'm talking about and I have to think about so many things while writing it gets kind of hard some times but it is worth it. I wish we could all see things through the same eyes but then I think, how fun would that be. I feel that God has made my wife and I different on purpose, for many reasons, one reason begin that if there were two gear heads living in the same house I think I would be sitting on a bench seat from a 63 pinto instead of a couch. But in other reasons, When we come across a problem, we can have two completely different fixes or thoughts on the issue, and if we both thought alike, assuming we also would go with my thoughts since I am always right, (Duck!!!) I do not think we would be in a very good part of life right now... Having a wife to talk about things with, to talk about issues and problems is like have your own personal therapist who knows everything about you, and the best part is that she does not send you a bill. Well you may have to take the trash out or empty the dish washer, but that is so much easier. LOL.
ReplyDeleteI love my wife, wouldn't change her for anything.... well maybe a hot rod... just kidding...
For a woman's point of view, I would like to add my thoughts on this subject.
ReplyDeleteImagine this situation. You wake up in the middle of the night and your house is on fire. Husband's first thought is to put out the fire, call 911, the "fact based" decisions.
Wife's first thought is to get the children out by any means possible, emotion based decision.
Not to say that dad's don't put the children first, or to say a wife would let the house burn, but we both react in equal but opposite ways for a reason, God made us that way.
So when you wonder why God would make it so hard for men to understand women, remember, it's not to confuse you, it's to compliment you. Everyone loves a big juicy steak, but it's wayyyyy better with a few spices on it. Salad is very good for you, but try to choke one down with no dressing...perfectly made for one another.